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很多人問為什麼要結婚？

我很少勸人沒事就結婚，反而我常說結婚前要想清楚，那不是戀愛的結束，也不是幸福圓滿的結局，反而是一條全新道路的開始，而這條路從今而後由你們兩個人一起攜手走過。

昨天看到【新娘物語】雜誌總編輯摘錄了英國皇家婚禮上，英國倫敦主教的證婚之辭，他的每一句話都鏗鏘有力，特別讓我有感觸。轉載如下：

婚姻是彼此幫助的一條路

「婚姻是讓男人與女人彼此幫助的一條路，按著造物主的意旨，實現每個人最深邃最真實的自我。」

“ Marriage is intended to be a way in which man and woman help each other to become what God meant each one to be, their deepest and truest selves.”

婚姻是共同編築新的生命

他說：「就某意義而言，每一個婚禮，都是皇家婚禮！新郎和新娘，就是創造未來的國王和王后，共同編築新的生命，這生命從他們穿流向著將來。」

“ In a sense every wedding is a royal wedding with the bride and the groom as king and queen of creation, making a new life together so that life ca flow through them in to the future.”

婚姻是心靈成長的途徑

他又說：「心靈的成長，就是一個人在自我以外找到愛的中心…，我們能付出更多自我，我們的心靈就更富足；我們能更走出自我，我們就能成為更真實的自己，也更彰顯我們心靈的美麗。婚姻是尋求彼此更豐富生命的途徑。」

“ A spiritual life grows as love finds its centre beyond ourselves…the more we give of self, the richer we become in soul; the more we go beyond ourselves in love, the more we become our true selves and our spiritual beauty is more fully revealed. In marriage we are seeking to bring one another in to fuller life.

婚姻是彼此轉化的動力

「婚姻應該會轉化我們，就是在丈夫及妻子，將對方當成為自己的藝術作品時發生。轉化是可能的，只要我們放棄懷藏去改造伴侶的野心。要心靈相通，就不能強求，要給對方空間與自由。」

“Marriage should transform, as husband and wife make one another their work of art. It is possible to transform as long as we do not harbour ambitions to reform our partner. There must be no coercion if the Spirit is to flow; each must give the other space and freedom.

婚姻是在寬恕中茁壯

「許多人對於個人的關係及感情會帶來人生的意義和幸樂有過份的期待。這樣的心態會給伴侶帶來過重的負擔。我們都不是完全的人，都需要一份安全的愛，而不是有壓迫的愛，我們需要彼此寬恕，才會茁壯。」

“ There has been a corresponding inflation of expectations that personal relations alone will supply meaning and happiness in life. This is to load our partner with too great a burden. We are all incomplete: we all need the love which is secure, rather than oppressive, we need mutual forgiveness, to thrive.”